2 recent incidents I need to get off my chest.....
.......................My self esteem issues started back when they shouldn't have. I was in junior high when I became truly body conscious. In high school thats when it got really tricky. I was curvy & athletic & although I wasn't "Barbie-esque" I was rather attractive. Stupid teenage drama and bologna made me think I was fat back then. Oh how I would laugh in the face of my teenage self right now. I was tiny compared to a few girls I know. Body image as a teenage girl is all out of whack. I know what fat is now.
I'm done being fat. SO over it. So if you see me lamely running or jogging or walking...or doing some other form of physical activity don't laugh. Cheer me on instead please.
Dos! (2) I was able to reconfirm my belief recently that some people have no basic knowledge of etiquette. My hubby was on the phone with someone who not only called him a name (cough cough scrawny cough cough) but this person proceeded to ask "Well....hows Sarah & your girls? Have you had another baby yet or are you expecting again?"
YOU'VE GOTTA BE KIDDING ME?!?!?! This is a person I've met maybe once or twice (ie: was properly introduced to, oh never, but recognize who it is) and been in the presence of maybe an additional 6 times...in the past 2ish years. This is someone my husband has "heard of" but never met officially. Although Jesse has a really hard time putting names with faces.
Anyways so back to the ettiquette....So 1st you insult someone...and then you ask personal questions about their family/children/wife trying to make small talk? Does this seem odd to anyone but me? It sort of weirds me out that this person has the nerve to talk like that and ask what seem like pretty personal questions.
Now don't get me wrong if you knew me well I wouldn't mind you teasing my husband....if it was teasing. But this person honestly was calling my husband names and thus was insulting his manhood in a way. Oh and PS it was confirmed that this person spoke poorly about my husband and used the same term to another person as well. Grrr.... Luckily this certain issue has become a total joke between us and our friends. We're thinking "Scrawny" might just have to be in the team name for our fall season of co-ed softball. hahaha
But how about the personal questions??? In my honest opinion totally out of line. Ok, yes I'll admit I'm sort of sensitive about pregnancy and babies and questions about my fertility. Due to my sensitivity and the emotion over the whole topic I've made Jesse sort of sensitive about it too. But really? This question rates up there with touching someones belly and asking when they're due...and not knowing if they're even pregnant!!!
I discussed this certain subject with a friend recently who also has fertility problems. She said that any time someone asks about "when they're going to try" or "if...blah blah blah" its like a kick in the gut. Thats what it feels like. Being kicked. Someone who so horribly wants something, but can't have it no matter how hard they try. It not that the subject is off limits entirely...but with a person who doesn't even know you (or what you're dealing with) its sort of a touchy subject.
Ok so anyways...thats my vent and opinion. How about you?
Oh sweetheart. I am so sorry that you were hurt by those stupid little girls. I Look at you and see the most wonderful friend, and best mom, and most of all, I see the sister that I always needed. You are NOT "a big fat lady". Heck, you have been recovering from an accident that almost took your leg, that laid you up for a good long time, and then had a baby. So what if you are carrying a little extra? Until recently, you physically could NOT do any "meaningful" exercise. The fact that you are now out and going at it with all your heart makes me want to find those close minded little twits and give them a strong whack in the head.
ReplyDeleteAs for the dork that called Jesse "Scrawny" umm, obviously not someone who actually knows him! Idiot.
From someone who watched you recover, and walked with you around the block many times in a wheelchair (torcher queen)trust me, these people have no idea about the real you. They need to keep comments to themselves, and stop throwing rocks. Someday it will be them!
Love you!
Kiar
Some people suck!! You are a wonderful caring person. I know the BS you went through, becuase I was sitting right there telling you, "no, Sarah you wont be going downstairs today." It was so hard for me to see you in so much pain, because, once you where like my big sister. I hate hearing how people talk about you or anyone else. Being that most people have know idea how hard you have worked to get where you are today.
ReplyDeleteI guess that person has no idea who Jesse is, becuase I have seen him do some pretty not so scrawny things!!
Sarah, please keep your head up. Everything will work out some way or the other. I have seen you do some pretty amazing things!
I love you!
Sammy
Believe it or not, most people don't mean to offend others. They come across in the wrong manner. It's difficult, but I've learned to ignore people who are like that and not let it get the best of me. I don't need to have more stress on top of what else is going on in my life.
ReplyDeleteYou could shoot right back at them that it's none of their business. Put them in an difficult position. I am sure the conversation won't last too long.
Sorry, life sucks sometimes. SO do 99% of people.
Hey friend. Well I think you are a super special person who means the world to me. Ten years ago I had no idea what is to struggle with weight. But now I do. And it sucks. Especially when it seams that no matter how hard you try the weight doesn't seem to want to come off. And, add ongoing medical issues to the weight issue and you are screwed, literally.
ReplyDeleteBeing away in MI that past week I was able to do a lot of thinking and witness a different way of life again, and had some revelations - that I will be blogging about soon.
Keep your head up and remember that our identity is in Christ and noone else. I love you so much Sarah.